Boundaries & Vampires
I have been on a journey on learning how to set proper boundaries. I was always saying yes to everything and everybody. However, in passing of time, I have become wiser and more prudent in this. You have to set boundaries on your time, in your ministry, in your relationships, on your usage of your talents, on your personal treasures and many other areas in life or you will doom to fail. We are not meant to be everything to everybody.
This isn’t meant to be an exhaustive study into the subject of boundaries; just a brief glance. I have come to believe, in life, the enemy will send people into your path to drain your time, resources, and energy. I refer to them as vampires. What do vampires do? They thirst for blood, for life-energy. Same with the enemy, he seeks to drain you. We must ever be on guard and vigilant. Consider these few passages in the WORD:
Proverbs 22:3 & 27:12 reminds us: A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.
Proverbs 4:14: Do not enter the path of the wicked, And do not walk in the way of evil.
Romans 16:17: Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them.
Some practical considerations:
-In your time, be careful who you give your time to. Yes, we need fellowship with each other but we also need time for Jesus. Don’t spend time with those who seek to hinder “turn away from them,” as Romans 16:17 tells us.
-In your ministry, seek to spend time on those wanting to be saved, healed and set free. Do not allow the enemy to drain your time on foolishnesses.
-In relationships, place Jesus first. Seek the Kingdom of God first. Then your family. Then the work of the gospel.
-Regarding your energy (and resources), save it for those who are open for ministry and those who celebrate the ministry. Do not give away your energy on those who are simply seek to drain you. Same with relationships. Save your energy and direct it to your time with God, then family and friends, then others.
Watch out for the vampires. They are always seeking to manipulate your time, resources and energy. It’s okay to say no to people. It’s okay to hide yourself from the vampires. It’s okay to take detours to avoid evil people. It’s okay to set up boundaries in your life. In fact, the WORD tells us too!